How Does Your Husband Measure Up?

I needed some motivation today, and there isn't anyone who motivates me more than my husband.  What motivates you? This post contains sponsored links from affiliates.  The past few months as I scroll through my newsfeed on Facebook, I have been seeing so many posts about woman complaining about their husbands or significant others. Tons of posts about how their husbands are lazy around the house all the time, husbands that don't help with their children, husbands who just completely ignore them; and these woman are asking for advice on if this is normal and do other woman experience the same thing. I'm here to tell you right now, in this very moment that it is not normal, and should not be accepted. My husband works his ass off at a 40+ hour a week job, getting up every morning by 5:45am. He never once complains. He still gets up with the baby in the middle of the night if I'm tired, or sometimes just because he wants to. He understands that I'm home all day with 5 children on and off. He comes home from breaking his back at work all day, and will start dinner if I haven't, or finish up the laundry or anything else that he sees that needs to get done. He never asks, he just does it. We are in this together, we are a team. He never makes me feel bad if the house isn't spotless when he comes home from work. And we never dive into the craziness together without him giving me a kiss when he walks in the door. So ladies here are 10 simple rules, if your man doesn't follow at least 8 of these then you should find a new man.

  1.) He makes you fall more in love with him everyday.     By this I mean that he takes time out of his day to show you in some way that you are the most important woman in his life.

  2.) He sends you random texts during his day.    It can be once a day or it can be multiple times a day. My husband always shoots me a text just to let me know he's thinking of me, he loves me, or the fun things we have planned for when the kids go to sleep ;)

  3.) He includes you on any and all plans he makes for himself and the family. You are not a free babysitter. There should not be a problem with your man hanging out with his friends periodically, but he should have the courtesy to let you know at least 24 hours prior that he is going to be busy. Or if he is including the family in the plans so that you can get yourself and the kids prepared.

  4.) He makes time for you. This one boggles my mind that I even have to mention it, but if your husband isn't making time for you, then he doesn't want to be with you. No matter how busy he may be or how many things he has going on, a good man will always set aside time for the woman that he loves.

  5.) He helps out around the house. The household is both of your responsibility. Whether you are a stay at home mom or not, all the responsibility should not be left on your shoulders. We all know how hard it is to get anything done with little ones in the house. If your husband see's things that need to be picked up, or dinner hasn't been started yet he should have no problem helping you out. After all, you are raising his minions.

  6.) He never minds you hanging out with your friends. Don't abuse this one ladies. But if you want to hang out with your friends from time to time there should never be a question about it. First of all he should trust you enough because you have proven that you are trustworthy, and second of all he should have no issue watching the kids.

  7.) He gets up in the middle of the night with the baby. Girls, keep in mind he does have to get up early in the morning for work to provide financial stability, but that doesn't mean you aren't just as tired taking care of the kids all day. He will understand that if he is a good man, and won't wake you when he knows you've had a rough day.

  8.) He keeps your romantic life alive. Yes, it is your responsibility too. Your husband or partner should not be the only one trying to keep the flame burning. But at the same time he will still make you feel wanted, by coming up from behind you to hug you, or grab you on the sides suggestively, and periodically coming up with new moves for the bedroom, or any other room he decides to ravish you in.

  9.) He supports you and builds you up.  Your husband should  support you in your dreams, your desires, your crazy business ventures and anything else you want to do. While encouraging and supporting you, he will build you up, even if he knows the idea sounds silly he will recognize your need to set yourself apart from just being his wife and mother of his kids. And the last one is the most important...

  10.) He loves you unconditionally. This means that whether you are a raging bitch one week due to hormones and pms, or you're a frazzled lunatic because of an upcoming party; he accepts you, holds you a little tighter, and lets you know that you are going to get through it together. I am in no way a relationship expert, but I have had the really bad significant other and I now have an amazing husband who does all of these things and more. You must realize though ladies in order for your husband to treat you like a queen you must treat him like a king in return. It's all about give and take, and more give than it is take. This little piece of advice should just come naturally, it shouldn't have to be work or worked on, you should want to help each other, because after all you are  team and you want to succeed together. Never get too busy that you forget why you fell in love in the first place.
 So how does your husband measure up?